After my husband and I had been trying for a baby for a while, everything about life became tougher. It felt that everything in my life was out of control.
Life wasn’t good. I wasn’t getting what I wanted. I wasn’t getting the baby I desperately craved.
I became jealous, introverted, anxious, miserable, frustrated.
Jealous of all our friends, colleagues and even celebrities who were announcing their pregnancies every 5 minutes. I started choosing to stay in and avoid certain friends or social events where there was going to be talk of pregnancies or babies. I started worrying. About everything. Miserable that I was childless and frustrated that whatever we did, however hard we tried (no drinking, sex at the right times etc) we just weren’t getting pregnant.
It became all-consuming for me. It’s all I thought about, from the moment I woke up to the minute my head hit the pillow.
I was so stressed.
I didn’t want work to know that I was trying for a baby (although with more and more appointments being booked it became increasingly difficult to keep it a secret – and more stressful).
I didn’t talk about it with friends or family – I didn’t want the looks of pity or the well-meaning ‘any news/joy yet?’
Life was put on hold. Plans weren’t made in case I was pregnant by then.
Having been told that I would never have a baby of my own, not even with IVF, I refused to give up on my desire for a baby; a family. I am thrilled to say that we eventually had two gorgeous babies.
When trying for a baby, we focus so much on the physical – what we should be eating, how much we should weigh, when and how often we should be having sex – but we don’t pay any attention to our emotional health.
I don’t want any woman to feel the misery and despair that I felt whilst trying for a baby. So I have retrained as a Fertility Coach so that I can help successful women like you who want a baby (and who are used to getting what they want) and provide emotional support. I help women break through mindset issues around fertility and the way they’re living their life. I provide them with tools and techniques that allow them to believe in themselves and their dreams. I teach them that life is full of endless excitement, surprises and adventure, so that they once again feel in control.
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